Life with adjustment

Life with adjustment

By Intimate Viewpoint

Do you agree with me that, adjustment makes life peaceful?

We can observe it in our own home, you can realize that when you stay silent and do not give any reaction against any unpleasant activity of your family members,  the situation gets under control and the situation becomes worse when you give any negative reaction.

Here, keeping silent represent your adjustment quality. Although it is said that, keeping silent is not always good. Because sometimes we let some unpleasant activities happen by keeping quiet and calm. So, sometimes it gives the opposite result. We have noticed several times that, a couple when starts argument on any topic, the situation becomes worse in within few minutes. So, it is important to keep silent by one side, to make the situation normal. But it is not possible always, no one can adjust always.

Adjustment in the modern era

In the modern era, the word adjustment almost disappeared from a family. No side of a couple is ready to do adjust. Their so-called self-respect does not let flourish such good ideologies in between them. While intelligence found nowhere.

The scarcity of adjustment gives the result of divorce. In the modern era, each and every family have almost the same problem. The people whether a man or a woman works individually in their own field, both of them are independent, so here, the tolerance capability is zero in between the couple, they think that the adjustment would make them weak and they will be dominated by their spouses. So, now these days people do not believe in adjustment, and therefore disputes take place in between their lives.

The adjustment sometimes becomes suffocating

where on the one hand adjustment considered a messenger of peace, on another hand it becomes a cause of suffocation. Sometimes people keep silent for keeping peace in the family environment, but when this silence transforms into a suffocating atmosphere, we never know. That's why! sometimes it is good to speak loudly to express oneself because by doing this one can be free from suffocation. But often we remain silent because no one understands the reason for our shouting, and then we keep the environment peaceful by keeping ourselves quiet.

Such an environment looks good outside but no one can able to know about the poisonous, suffocating atmosphere of the inside area of a family.

It is said that silence is not good always because sometimes it indicates an intense storm.

The adjustment gives the deep wound

If anyone is seen keeping silent often, then it is important to think about that one otherwise, his silence may cause his deep wound and the matter may go wrong and may convert into depression.

The deep wound is not always visual but it gives excessive pain, in that case, people make separate themselves from others and goes into depression. The adjustment in a family often is one-sided, but this always goes wrong. The one-sided adjustment breaks the relationship and makes a family weak. So, the adjustment should be from both sides, if the family is confined to husband and wife, then the adjustment should be sometimes from the husband's side and sometimes from the wife's side. And if the family is a joint family then the responsibility of adjustment should be each and every member of the family.

Adjustment is not just a word to say

There is a great difference between the saying and doing of 'adjustment'. Those people know how much tough it is, who face such types of conditions oftentimes. That one knows only, who suffers maximum to do adjust often.

The adjustment is offensive sometimes, sometimes it may be unbearable, and sometimes people face a lot of embarrassment as well while adjusting.

The adjustment has to be established not only in a family but also in any place like office, society, market, neighborhood, and also many more. this is not an easy job, so very few people take such types of responsibilities 

Adjustment is not about everyone, but few people make it a habit. And do adjust so that other people could be live peacefully. It is a type of sacrifice you can say.

Adjustment bears unpleasant situations

Generally, we think that silence is an adjustment, although the prominent key of adjustment is silence. But yet, it does not work always as a key of adjustment.

The silence which sometimes we call adjustment becomes a cause of an unpleasant situation in our family, office, and also in many other places. Sometimes it observed in a family that when the head of the family remains silent on any unfair activity, the atmosphere of the family becomes worse day by day. And as a result, the home becomes a spot of violence, and then each and every member of the family do the things according to their wish. And in such situations, the home becomes a  spot where no rule and regulation is found.